Me, you and my perspective

Hello all, I have an interesting perspective for you.

I spent an evening with my friend. When I was recollecting our time together, all of my visual memory was of him. He was the person I saw and recalled, his face is in my mind. We had a lovely evening and I was there too! Oh yes! But I didn’t SEE ME. I have no visual recall of ME in the friendship that evening. Yet, I was a significant player in the friendship and our time together.

So, where’s my memory of ME? It’s all inside me, memorised in my body, an inner memory of touch and hearing sensation, conversation, pleasure, fun, laughter, gentleness, warmth, caring, ease, more.

This alerted me to a common human perspective of “He said this.” “She did that.” Our visual attention is necessarily on the “other person” and not on ourselves. How does this affect the way we recall the other person’s contribution to our experience?

We need to step inside and purposely reflect on our experiences, let ourselves re-visit our sensations, our feelings, our actions during our shared experiences. We need to look with different eyes at ourselves. My invitation is to practise looking inwards at ourselves with love and kindness.

Have you seen some beauty in yourself, in your memory, in your actions and words? Let’s celebrate what we can feel and not see, our own inner beauty, our actions and loving presence. If our experience has not been great, how can we bring some kindness and wisdom for ourselves? Can we practise some compassion when we’re not so proud of our actions? Can we allow ourselves to be with what we did without any blame or criticism and then let it go, consciously and with love?

Try it and let me know what happens!